This week’s video looks at using a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) skill called ABC PLEASE. DBT introduces great skills for Emotional Regulation, Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness and Distress Tolerance. While used most often with BPD (borderline personality), ED (eating disorders), and SA (substance abuse), its use is wide and varied. It works for everyday upsets and […]
Life Is In the Transitions
In this Memorial Day audio/visual I discuss Bruce Feiler’s book coming out on 7/14/2020: Life Is In the Transitions, a timely book discussing life quakes, disturbing events that permeate life and force us to recreate narratives in ways we never expected. In the process of recovery, we may find our superpowers or our kryptonite, learning […]
Public Service: A Way to Engage & Grow
Public service is a fulfilling outlet for growth. It helps practice “getting out there,” promoting, becoming comfortable in new settings, asking questions, and gaining appreciation amid other workers. When I was introduced to the Florida Foster Care Review Project, I learned the underpinnings of abuse, specifically in children. The training left an imprint, provided an […]
Exploring Work-Life Balance in a Covid-19 World
America is working less right now, as a result of the Covid-19 pandemic. But my lawyer friends seem busy. Stay at home orders haven’t reduced productivity pressures, particularly now with the economic pressures placed on firms and clients alike. Hard work remains the norm. When balanced with rest and pleasure, hard work can be satisfying. […]
Gendlin Focusing
Today, I’d like to share a time-tested mindfulness tool called Focusing. Focusing was created by philosopher/psychologist Eugene Gendlin, who studied under Carl Rogers, the grandfather of Humanistic Psychology. Gendlin passed away three years ago this month. Focusing is a tool that can be used on your own, or in therapy sessions. Couples guru John Gottman […]
Emotional Well-Being: How I Got to Therapy
When I first started in law, I went to therapy at the insistence of a close friend– an attorney and jogging partner. As we ran, she would hear me complain about billable hours, making mistakes, and how I didn’t feel I measured up. In addition, my parents went through an unexpected divorce. To make it […]
Lawyer Wellbeing
What some of you may know about me: I practice as a registered marriage and family therapist intern, scheduled to be fully licensed in the State of Florida by 2020. What some of my clients may NOT know: I am also an attorney! I’ve had my law license since 1989 and served as a commercial […]
Value of Silence
We are more than three weeks into our social distancing and stay at home orders–I hope everyone is staying safe and healthy. I wanted to thank all of the organizations, governmental programs, and professionals who have reached out to help us. We wouldn’t have such quick access to crucial updates during this phase if it […]
Journaling for Serenity
I’m sure you can agree: we’ve moved through a lot of different emotional states the last few weeks. I’ve noticed my mind flood with worry thoughts, while at other times, I find calm and peace. Amidst our anxiety and valid concern during the COVID-19 pandemic, I am called to offer a practice– a coping mechanism […]
